| Habits of happy couples
Romance is a way to express your love,
the icing on the cake. But don't wait for special
occasions to express your love. Make sure that you
nurture your loving relationship by practicing these
basic habits in your day-to-day life. These may seem
very basic, but how many do you do? Don't despair...
it's never too late to adopt good, loving habits.
The 10 habits:
1. Say "I Love You" at least once a day. Your partner
does need to hear the words.
2. Kiss good-bye and hello. Throw in a hug while you're
at it.
3. "Date" your partner for the rest of your lives. Treat
your partner even better than when you were dating...
Remember that you are sweethearts ~ * open the door with
a smile * straighten his tie * hold out a chair * hold
hands when you're walking together.
4. Don't sweat the small stuff. You can let his bad
habits bother you to distraction... or you can accept
them, and work around them. Does he leave the cap off
the toothpaste? Buy separate tubes... Does he leave
clothes lying around? Ignore them, or pick them up,
remembering just how much he does for you in other ways.
Or, make it easier for your partner to satisfy you...
buy several clothes hampers and keep them handy:-)
5. Concentrate on the positive. Instead of thinking
about the ways that he lets you down, think of all the
positive things about your partner that drew you to them
in the first place.
6. Take a breather when you're mad. Don't try to talk
when either of you are angry. Take a few minutes to walk
around the block, lay down, just get away from each
other so you can regroup. A short break will allow you
both to stay on track and discuss what's bothering you
instead of accidentally making personal insults that you
will regret later.
7. Don't use your partner's secrets or weaknesses
against them... ever! What may seem insignificant,
trivial, or cute to you may be serious to your partner.
Recognize what is important to your partner, and don't
discuss it with your friends, mother, his family,
anyone! And certainly don't throw the words back at them
in an argument. A loving relationship is one of the most
intimate and trusting that anyone can have.
8. Think about your partner first. If both of you do
this, then you can't help but win! Say 'yes' to your
partner as often as possible... go to that sports event
with him, get him out on that golf course because he
loves golf, make life easier for your partner, and
hopefully they will do the same for you!
9. RESPECT your partner. Don't badmouth your partner to
anyone! When you talk about your partner, let your
respect and love shine through.
10. Find a way to regroup together every day. Discover
what works well for you both... eat a meal together,
meet for happy hour drinks, just lay in bed in the dark,
take a walk around the block, etc. You can even mix
things up and vary your routine. If one of you is
travelling, call home at night just to hear their voice.
The point is to spend time together daily, just talking
or breathing the same air, feeling connected.
Remember... the more you put into your relationship, the
more you gain! Make love and romance a part of your
daily life!
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