Pregnancy Guide
|
|
|
Chennai Home >>
Pregnancy |
| |
Oral Sex
Oral Sex or oral-genital sex means both mouth contact
with the vagina, which is called cunnilingus, and mouth
contact with the penis, which is called fellatio.
Cunnilingus comes from a Latin word for vulva (a woman's
exterior sex organs), cunnus, and from the Latin word
for licking, lingere. Fellatio comes from the Latin word
fellare, meaning to suck. Either form of oral sex can be
done with one partner stimulating the other
individually, or both partners can stimulate each
other's genitals simultaneously. Oral sex given
simultaneously is commonly called 69, or, the French
translation, soixante-neuf. This is because the body
position of a couple having mutual oral sex resembles
the numeral 69.
Cunnilingus and fellatio are common sexual behaviors for
both same sex couples and couples of different sexes.
There are various combinations of positions and
techniques used in oral sex, but it is the mouth and
tongue that provide the pleasure in all cases. Kissing,
licking, sucking and nibbling can feel good anywhere on
the genitals of both men and women. The pressure (light,
firm, and in between), speed (fast, slow, or changing),
and the type of motion used can be varied endlessly to
produce different sensations. In both practices, the
warm, moist feeling of the mouth and the tongue on the
genitals can be very erotic. Some enjoy a teasing,
stop-start approach, while others prefer a more steady
type of stimulation. In one fellatio technique, known as
the Snaky-Lick Trick, the "trick" is to tease the
underside of the penis head almost imperceptibly with
the very tip of the tongue, just making ever so slight
tongue contact with this sensitive area in one light
upward lick, and then backing off for about fifteen
seconds between each lick. This trick has been said to
result in a powerful ejaculation in a very short time.
Other methods of fellatio include sucking the glans or
shaft of the penis by engulfing it in the mouth, licking
at various parts of the penis and scrotum, or nibbling
anywhere along the genitals. Many men enjoy having the
scrotum lightly stroked during fellatio and the area
just beneath the scrotum is often quite sensitive to
touch or oral massage.
Some people are uncomfortable performing fellatio
because they have a sensation of gagging when they take
the erect penis into their mouth. This real
physiological event, known as the gag reflex, is
triggered by pressure at the back of the tongue or in
the throat. If a man, in his excited state, pushes his
penis too far into his partner's mouth, the gag reflex
may take over. One way to avoid this problem is for the
person giving the oral sex to grasp the penis along the
shaft to control how much of it enters the mouth.
Another common objection to fellatio is having the man
ejaculate in his partner's mouth. A couple can agree in
advance to have the man remove his penis from his
partner's mouth before ejaculation. Others don't mind.
They either rinse the ejaculate from their mouth right
away or they swallow it. The ejaculate, on average about
4 cc, consists of proteins and sugars and reportedly
contains less than 36 calories.
Cunnilingus, like fellatio, can be performed in many
ways. Women's preferences vary, but commonly enjoyed
techniques include gentle tongue movements over the
clitoris, more rapid, focused licking, or sucking the
clitoris either gently or in a rougher fashion. Other
forms that women enjoy are oral stimulation of the
clitoris combined with fingering of the vagina; licking
and kissing of the lips just outside the vagina; having
the tongue thrust in and out of the vaginal opening; and
having the clitoris stimulated by hand (her own or her
partner's) while oral stimulation is directed at other
parts of the genitals.
Not everyone has or enjoys oral sex. Many people who try
it enjoy oral sex, but others have reservations about
it. These reservations tend to fall into three arenas:
first, that oral sex is unhygienic; second, that there
is a taboo against it; third, that it is not a true
expression of femininity or masculinity.
With regard to the matter of hygiene and oral sex,
neither vaginal fluid nor semen is harmful in any way.
This of course is true only in persons who are not
infected with a sexually transmitted disease (STD).
Everyone should be sure that they themselves and their
partners are free from STDs before engaging in any
sexual activity. No disease can be passed by oral sex
that wouldn't be transmitted by any other kind of sex.
If one partner has a STD the other is likely to catch it
whatever they do together sexually. In short, oral sex
between healthy people is safe and clean. Another
hygiene aspect that concerns some people is genital
odor. Simply washing the genitals is sufficient to
prepare you for any sex, including oral sex. It is not
necessary for women to douche before having oral sex,
but some women choose to do so. However, douching can
wash away the helpful bacteria that naturally protect
the vagina. In addition to a man's natural genital
odors, the genitals often take on the smells of recently
eaten foods. As with women, thorough washing can reduce
this odor, and besides, many people find some degree of
genital odor in their partner stimulating.
The notion that oral sex is taboo discourages some
people from ever trying it. Oral sex has long been
frowned upon and often deemed illegal. The basis for the
social disapproval and legal restrictions lies in
age-old religious prohibitions, which to some are still
very powerful. People who accept and practice almost any
of the major Western religions can therefore feel
confused and guilty about engaging in oral sex, despite
their knowledge that it is a safe and appropriate form
of sexual expression. In the end, each individual must
decide for him or her self whether to stick to the
teachings of his or her religion or to act in favor of
what seems personally right for them.
For some people, the issue is not conflict with their
religious beliefs as much as it is a belief that it
somehow compromises their masculinity or femininity.
Some people incorrectly think that cunnilingus and
fellatio are homosexual acts, even if experienced by
heterosexual couples. While homosexual couples do engage
in oral sex, so do a majority of heterosexual couples.
The activity itself is neither homosexual nor
heterosexual. Apart form the misconception about oral
sex and homosexuality, women sometimes feel that
performing oral sex can make them feel submissive, as if
they are giving a service and are thereby inferior. Men
sometimes feel that performing oral sex on their partner
reduces their masculinity because their penis is not
involved. Couples should openly discuss these issues,
and if necessary seek the help of a qualified therapist.
Fortunately, many people are free of negative feelings
about oral sex and have chosen to include it in their
sexual repertoire. However, it is just as okay to choose
not to participate in oral sex as it is to do so. Oral
sex, just like any other sexual behavior, is a matter of
personal preference.
|
|
|
|
|
Pregnancy Calendar |
|
:: |
|
|
|
|
|
:: |
|
|
|
|
|
:: |
|
|
|
|
|
|
