| Sex during Pregnancy
There need not be any worry unless there
are complications with the pregnancy, it's safe to have
sex because the fetus is protected by a cushioning sac
of amniotic fluid that surrounds it. Think of an egg
from the store: your baby is like the yellow yolk part
in the middle of all that egg white. Now, pregnancy can
affect sex in other ways. For example, hormonal changes
that accompany pregnancy often influence a woman's
moods, which could alter her desire to have sex. For
some couples, nausea, physical discomfort, weight gain,
and changes in energy levels may present challenges to
sex and the enjoyment of it. As a result, an expectant
couple may want to discuss experimenting with many
different sexual positions, as well as try other ways to
have pleasure in case one of the partners does not want
to have intercourse. Changing positions is important
because some women may experience sex differently while
they're pregnant; what they found pleasurable before
conception may no longer be the case. That's why it can
help for the woman to listen to her body and act
appropriately. This is particularly true if a woman has
any pain or uterine bleeding, or if her "water is
broken," in which case she'll need to avoid sexual
intercourse or penetration altogether and see a health
care provider right away. It's also essential to
consider and respect emotional and psychological
boundaries to sex during pregnancy in order for both
partners to feel safe and comfortable with their
decision. Talk openly with one another throughout the
pregnancy (as well as at other times, too). What do each
of you want emotionally? Some men may continue to feel
uneasy or fearful of hurting the fetus during sex even
if they know it's not possible. What about physically?
With normal weight gain from pregnancy, some women may
develop insecurities about their bodies and feel less
desirable to their partner. How about sexually? One
partner may want to have sex more often than the other,
who may feel pressured or "obligated" to maintain a sex
routine that predates the pregnancy. Discussing these
issues, while respecting each other's concerns, could
help bring about some sort of resolution. It almost goes
without saying that your midwife or obstetrician should
be able to advise you on many of these matters. Best
wishes on your soon-to-be new arrival,
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